"With weeping they shall come,
and with consolations I will lead them back,
I will let them walk by brooks of water,
in a straight path in which they shall not stumble.
I will turn their mourning into joy,
I will comfort them, and give them gladness for sorrow."
(Jeremiah 31:9, 13)
The promise of the Lord is to lead us, to transform our mourning and our sorrow, to bring us joy and gladness in Him. "I will turn their mourning into joy." But how can this possibly happen?
Sorrow is like a wound forever opened, and we mourn over what is lost beyond all recovery. Can this really change? The really deep sorrows, like the tragic loss of someone we love... how can these sorrows be turned into joy?
We really don't understand what this means. These are the sorrows that we make a certain kind of "peace" with, after awhile. The world tells us to "move on with life" and to forget, and in sense we have to do this, we have to "carry on" just to survive. But no one really forgets the deep sorrows. We learn to carry them with us. We find a way to "come to terms" with them. We live with open wounds.
But if we really have faith in the promise of the Lord, then we also have something more. We have hope. In faith and in hope, we know that God has made our sorrows His own. He has borne them all the way to the end.
God has revealed His love for us. God is Love.
God has revealed His infinite glory, His infinite mystery. But after 20 centuries of Christianity, the words "God is Love" can sound sentimental. We want "love" to be trivial, and so we make God trivial. We consign Him to the superficial places, to the margins of life. We keep His love at a distance, as though it were some vague comforting story.
We do not want to think about real love, because it is so fundamental and mysterious, because it encompasses sacrifice, and because our human experience of love is so often one of failure, limitations, and disappointment. And love is so often for us the road to sorrow.
We love someone, and then they die.
How can we bear this? We envision a hazy "afterlife," strange and inaccessible, or else we allow them to disappear into a supercosmic nirvana. But in life we knew a human person, someone we could walk with, by brooks of water. Here is our great sorrow: we want to walk again with the person we love. We want to see two pairs of feet, and instead we only see one. We walk alone.
And then, a stranger appears.
He walks with us. We don't know who the stranger is, but hope is awakened within our hearts. Are we willing to follow that hope, and take the stranger into the home of our hearts? Or will we let him pass by?
Only if we let the stranger in will he open our eyes. He will show us that he has all the deep wounds of our sorrows. He has them.
But there is no easy way to learn this. We have to let the stranger in. We have to see His humanity and let the fire of hope burn in us.
Then we will begin to discover that the promise has been fulfilled, that love is not a lie or a trick, that our sorrow is even now being turned to joy.
An ordinary man engages the circumstances of daily life, seeking to draw closer to the Mystery who gives meaning to everything.
Thursday, October 24, 2013
Wednesday, October 23, 2013
Why Are We Always So Frustrated?
Everything is the direct effect of our Father's love.
Everything is grace, because everything is God's gift....
--St. Therese of Lisieux
Everything? Really??
Okay, I can do the theology here, but when it comes to actual stuff that happens ... its very hard to see everything as a gift. Sometimes "everything" is a train wreck. Where is the "gift"?
At such times, it seems easier to understand that proverb of contemporary worldly wisdom, which might be paraphrased as: "Life stinks and then you die!"
But no. Those are always words of profound dissatisfaction. The human person knows they are wrong. If there is any "resignation" in them, its only in the attempt to make a cynical peace with the idea that the universe is one big scam.
But I can't say "I've been cheated by life" except from the expectation that life is supposed to give me something, that at the heart of life there is a promise.
Thus, people go on hoping for something, and if they say things like this its because they are trying to cope with a sense of frustration that seems to renew itself over and over again.
I usually don't go so far as to say that "life stinks..." (well, not lately anyway). But I do feel that "life is often frustrating."
How can my frustration be a gift? Why do I have to live with frustration, day after day; dull, throbbing frustration aching through the day; frustration like a prison that seems to build walls in every direction? What's the "gift" in that?
Well, frustration provokes me; it challenges my freedom, and my sense of who I am.
In the face of frustration, I can choose to give up. I can say "life stinks" and wallow in pity for my isolated self.
Or I can remember that my very self is a gift, and that this moment of frustration (with all of its bitterness, pain, and incomprehensibility) is a gift because it deepens my awareness of who I really am. It reminds me in a concrete way that I am made for something greater, something beyond my control, something I don't make or measure or manage, something that I can't find anywhere in this world.
Nevertheless, this "something" is real. It is at the root of me, it sustains me, and it carves itself into my heart in the form of a promise.
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What does my six year old daughter do when she's frustrated by something?
"Daddy, Daddy, Daddy, Daddy! Help! Please help!" She asks for help. She asks Daddy to come.
What do I do if I see Josefina crying, helpless, frustrated by something because she's just too small to understand it?
I go to her and pick her up and hold her. She still cries. Sometimes she cries even more. It seems like she doesn't even notice I'm there.
But I am there, and I keep holding on to her.
Tuesday, October 22, 2013
John Paul II: Opening Wide the Doors For Christ
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| Pope John Paul II at his installation, October 22, 1978 |
It was the world of my youth. The Communist Empire of the Soviet Union seemed indestructible, an awful reality that appeared to be one of the permanent fixtures of the wild and scary new epoch that was emerging. There were no great ideals looming on the horizon (at least none that I was aware of). There was (it seemed) only the exponential growth of human power over the external world. But human hearts were full of strange dreams and empty of God. He was ignored or had been forgotten by the "free" world, and He was banned by communism.
On October 22, 1978, the sun rose on a dark and terrible world. Who could imagine that something new might happen? Who would have guessed that this day would inaugurate the beginning of a great energy, an expression of intelligence, and above all a witness that was destined to leave an ineradicable stamp on the emerging epoch? No one had predicted that the greatest man of the 20th century was about to take the stage of history. A man was about to appear who would help us begin to understand what had happened in these tumultuous decades of colossal growth and vast destruction. He would help us understand the continuing changes at the end of the second millennium. He would point the way forward, open new vistas of understanding and affectivity, and above all he would remind us of the love of God.
The greatness of John Paul II, of course, was his witness to Christ. It was a singularly powerful witness. He entered into so many realms of human experience and endeavor only to efface himself so that Christ might shine through him. We learned that Christ had never left us, and that at the beginning of the third millennium it was Christ who alone was sufficient to subordinate the new power of human beings to a new and deeper awareness of their dignity as children of God.
The feast day of the man who will soon be St. John Paul II commemorates a moment in his own life and in the life of the Church, but also a decisive moment for the history of the world. There were some who heard his words that day and recognized that something great had begun. There were some who, on that day, began to discover a new courage in their lives.
"Do not be afraid.
Open, I say open wide the doors for Christ.
To His saving power
open the boundaries of states,
economic and political systems,
the vast fields of culture,
civilization and development.
Do not be afraid.
Christ knows 'that which is in man.'
He alone knows it.
"So often today,
"So often today,
man does not know that which is in him,
in the depths of his mind and heart.
So often he is uncertain
about the meaning of his life on this earth.
He is assailed by doubt,
a doubt which turns into despair.
We ask you, therefore,
we beg you with humility and with trust,
let Christ speak to man.
He alone has words of life,
yes, of life eternal."
Blessed John Paul II
October 22, 1978
Friday, October 18, 2013
Mental Illness Happens to "Good Priests" Too
A week and a half ago, I received some terrible news. It saddened and shocked many people. It saddened me, very deeply. But it didn't shock me.
"Father X, a local priest, died unexpectedly yesterday...." So begins an obituary. Some people don't need to read any further to realize the awful thing that has happened. But in a few days, it becomes common knowledge.
Another priest has died by suicide.
This was not a priest who abused anyone, or was under any accusation, or who had ever even dreamed of committing a crime. This was a priest who suffered from depression.
Lord Jesus, grant him eternal rest, and console his family, his friends, his parish, his brother priests. Jesus, have mercy on him, and on the souls of other priests who have disappeared in this darkness, and all other people driven to such an end. Have mercy on those who are afflicted by this terrible disease, and by every oppressive suffering. Jesus, have mercy on us and on the whole world. Jesus.
I don't know what to say about this on a blog. I've prayed to God; I've asked Him, "What can I say?" Does God want me to say anything at all? Maybe it would be better to remain silent.
This is a time to mourn.
But what can any of us do? How do we help with a problem like this? Its too enormous. We feel powerless. What can we do?
We can pray for our priests, living and dead. We can have greater compassion toward them (and toward one another). We can recognize that these mental illnesses are real, and try to understand them. We can support efforts to build up adequate mental health services for priests and for everyone in our dioceses.
But it is also a time for vigilance. A time to pray for the dead and the living. And also a time to do whatever we can to fight against the stigma that remains attached to mental illness, and to build up adequate, Catholic, Christian, human ways to reach out to people who suffer from mental illness. Let us face the fact: we do not yet have enough of these resources. We're not even close. This must change!
Priests are also human beings. They have brains. They have emotions. They have human problems, human suffering, human loneliness, human illnesses. There are plenty of good priests who suffer from mental illnesses. They struggle with them, they find ways to get through the day with them, they limp with them. They are good men -- some of the best men I've ever known, men who have been instruments of Christ's grace for many, men who have never been a threat or a danger to anyone. Except themselves.
Mental illnesses are diseases. For some reason, we still tend to assume that the sacrament of Holy Orders makes men immune from these diseases. It doesn't.
But what can any of us do? How do we help with a problem like this? Its too enormous. We feel powerless. What can we do?
We can pray for our priests, living and dead. We can have greater compassion toward them (and toward one another). We can recognize that these mental illnesses are real, and try to understand them. We can support efforts to build up adequate mental health services for priests and for everyone in our dioceses.
We can encourage and support Catholic men and women who feel called to be psychiatrists, psychologists, therapists, mental health care practitioners, researchers, neuroscientists, and health journalists. We can stop mocking these professions and stop showing contempt for the real problems they are grappling with. Yes, there is a lot of error and confusion here, but also a lot of positive accomplishments and a lot of real medical and therapeutic treatments that exist and that continue to be developed. We must recognize these things; it is a matter of justice and mercy, of life and death.
We can think more carefully, make the appropriate distinctions, listen to people whose judgment we trust, and build up what is good here. Let us help our priests, other people, and ourselves to find the genuine healing that is available. Let us work to erase the stigma and the shame that cause so many people to live in denial or hide the reality of their pain.
We can try to remember that every human being is a person--and that means my neighbor, my spouse, my child, my colleague, and also my priest and my bishop. Every human being is a person who needs to be loved and appreciated, who is vulnerable and weak, afflicted and wounded by sickness and sin and the inexhaustible thirst for God.
We can learn to look at the person. Love the person, first, always....
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Monday, October 14, 2013
She Understands My Heart
Yesterday Pope Francis renewed the consecration of the world to the Immaculate Heart of Mary. The statue of Our Lady of Fatima was brought from Portugal to Rome for this simple but beautiful moment.
There was something about this iconic statue that struck me powerfully as I watched the Mass yesterday morning. This is the statue that bears in its crown the extraordinary relic of another Pope who will be canonized next Spring. The bullet that carried the future of the Church and the human race in its flight is now a jewel in Mary's crown.
Pope Francis knows that the Mother of God is our mother, that she is the "untier of knots," all the knots that bind us up inside ourselves, and keep our hearts from growing.
Mary is the Woman. "Be it done unto me according to your word." Her submission, from her heart, is the beginning of everything.
She understands my heart. She knows how I struggle with "sub-mission," with saying YES to God and allowing Him to draw my freedom into the His Great Mission -- the giving of Himself, the pouring-out of Himself in love. I compromise, complicate things, evade, resist! I tie myself into knots.
Mary unties the knots. I have to let her take care of it. She has a patience and a compassion in her heart that has been given to her precisely to accompany me, as my mother. She has the supreme empathy for my destiny. This is true for each and every one of us.
Thus the Pope knows that it is meaningful to consecrate the world once again to Mary's Immaculate Heart.
Why would he do this if she's not really there, or if she doesn't matter or doesn't help?
Mary is not a doctrine to be puzzled over. She's a real person, she's really there, she's our mother, she cares for us, she helps us, she loves us... and we don't have to understand "why" in order to go to her.
Either she is a real person who hears the Pope's prayers, and your prayers and my prayers, or else WHY BOTHER WITH ANY OF THIS AT ALL?
My heart? Its a mess. It doesn't want to submit. It doesn't know how to open up, to let go of its smallness, to receive a gift greater than itself, and be transformed by sharing in God's infinite love. My heart is proud. My heart is afraid. My heart is petty.
My heart? Its a mess. It doesn't want to submit. It doesn't know how to open up, to let go of its smallness, to receive a gift greater than itself, and be transformed by sharing in God's infinite love. My heart is proud. My heart is afraid. My heart is petty.
I give it to Mary. "Mother Mary, untie the knots."
Friday, October 11, 2013
Give Thanks
"In all circumstances
give thanks,
for this is the will of God for you
in Christ Jesus"
(1 Thessalonians 5:18).
"Giving thanks" in a time of difficulty does not mean trying to force myself to feel good about it. It means trusting in God's goodness and love for me in this moment.
"Giving thanks" in a time of difficulty does not mean trying to force myself to feel good about it. It means trusting in God's goodness and love for me in this moment.
Tuesday, October 8, 2013
"What I Wore on Monday": WITH PICTURES!
You may recall that a couple of weeks ago I introduced a new "series" that will henceforth appear at (extremely ir)regular intervals, called What I Wore on Monday. What had begun as a depressing post about my exhaustion and my dysfunctional brain took a turn in the (dare I say?) "humorous" direction when I got the idea to write about my clothes (you can find that post here).
As an "Academic Sometimes Work-At-Home Dad" (we use the acronym ASWAHD) my life is lived in a variety of contexts which call for a diverse wardrobe. In public environments I am required to cultivate a style that conforms to my social status as the eccentric old professor. This is relatively simple; its a matter of throwing a tweed jacket over pretty much anything (lately I've gone for polo shirts). Its the "He's-Wearing-That-Because-He's-Thinking-Deep-Thoughts-and-Therefore-Doesn't-Realize..." look.
But I chose Mondays in particular because they pose special occupational challenges. Mondays combine intensive scholarship (e.g. Zzzzzzzzz) with intensive Daddy-ing (i.e. Josefina and I are both home all day). I need an outfit that's comfortable and durable. I need to be sufficiently presentable to be seen from the neck up on Skype, but I also need to be prepared for a variety of At-Home-Daddy tasks, which include scrounging under a bed looking for the video she wants to watch and also being ready, at any moment, to be turned into a Daddy Jungle Gym.
A couple of weeks ago, I described my Monday outfit in great detail, inspired by those heroic Mommy-Bloggers who cook for, home-educate, and give mommy-love to fifteen children aged six and under, scrub every inch of the house every day, shop in thrift stores or even make their own clothes, and still manage to look smashing!
I wanted to put in a good showing on behalf of the Daddy-Bloggers.
I gave an excellent fashionisto description, but readers (including some Mommy-Bloggers) immediately pointed out that I had not included any pictures!
Duh. The pictures are everything. After all, I wanted to encourage Dads everywhere that they too can look good, even under the special home-life pressures that they face (such as, "Where will I take my nap today?" or "What can I still wear even after I've spilled the child's yogurt on it?").
So this time, I've got the pictures to prove the look.
Yesterday, I went with basic grey (blue trimmed collar for the shirt, and a diverse hue for the "exercise pants"). There was a small hole (okay, not small, but not really big either) on the shirt collar, but it didn't matter because it was in the back. I couldn't see it, which meant that no one else would either. Right?
But on to the pictures. Perfect for your At-Home-Dad Monday:
Thus the top, with "stretch collar" maximum mobility. (And can you even see the hole? See, I told you, the hole is not a problem.) And now the pants, with the camera capturing the grey diversity.
Well, men. There are your pictures. Be inspired. And rest assured Mommies, we've got everything under control. Well... more or less under control, haha:
| People say,"Gosh he was my teacher 20 years ago and since then I've had ten kids and gotten a Ph.D. but I still don't want to call him by his FIRST NAME!" |
But I chose Mondays in particular because they pose special occupational challenges. Mondays combine intensive scholarship (e.g. Zzzzzzzzz) with intensive Daddy-ing (i.e. Josefina and I are both home all day). I need an outfit that's comfortable and durable. I need to be sufficiently presentable to be seen from the neck up on Skype, but I also need to be prepared for a variety of At-Home-Daddy tasks, which include scrounging under a bed looking for the video she wants to watch and also being ready, at any moment, to be turned into a Daddy Jungle Gym.
A couple of weeks ago, I described my Monday outfit in great detail, inspired by those heroic Mommy-Bloggers who cook for, home-educate, and give mommy-love to fifteen children aged six and under, scrub every inch of the house every day, shop in thrift stores or even make their own clothes, and still manage to look smashing!
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| (WINK!) |
I wanted to put in a good showing on behalf of the Daddy-Bloggers.
I gave an excellent fashionisto description, but readers (including some Mommy-Bloggers) immediately pointed out that I had not included any pictures!
Duh. The pictures are everything. After all, I wanted to encourage Dads everywhere that they too can look good, even under the special home-life pressures that they face (such as, "Where will I take my nap today?" or "What can I still wear even after I've spilled the child's yogurt on it?").
So this time, I've got the pictures to prove the look.
Yesterday, I went with basic grey (blue trimmed collar for the shirt, and a diverse hue for the "exercise pants"). There was a small hole (okay, not small, but not really big either) on the shirt collar, but it didn't matter because it was in the back. I couldn't see it, which meant that no one else would either. Right?
But on to the pictures. Perfect for your At-Home-Dad Monday:
| Just to make it clear: Dads at home are REAL MEN. |
Thus the top, with "stretch collar" maximum mobility. (And can you even see the hole? See, I told you, the hole is not a problem.) And now the pants, with the camera capturing the grey diversity.
| With athletic socks, and another fist pump, I'm ready for the day! |
Well, men. There are your pictures. Be inspired. And rest assured Mommies, we've got everything under control. Well... more or less under control, haha:
| Josefina! What are you doing? |
Monday, October 7, 2013
Mary Always Wins
Our Lady of the Rosary. Our Lady of Victory.
Both Eastern and Western Christian traditions commemorate times when the Blessed Virgin Mary has defended people from hostile invasions, famines, or natural disasters: through the prayer of the Rosary (at Lepanto) or through her icons or various expressions of her local patronage. This is not superstition. Mary is not manipulated; she participates in God's mysterious plan to communicate to each of us a love beyond all understanding, which travels paths that don't necessarily correspond to temporal success or even safety.
Both Eastern and Western Christian traditions commemorate times when the Blessed Virgin Mary has defended people from hostile invasions, famines, or natural disasters: through the prayer of the Rosary (at Lepanto) or through her icons or various expressions of her local patronage. This is not superstition. Mary is not manipulated; she participates in God's mysterious plan to communicate to each of us a love beyond all understanding, which travels paths that don't necessarily correspond to temporal success or even safety.
But Mary is also our Mother. And she wants to draw us into a more profound trust in the tender care she has for us. She wants us to turn to her in all our needs, and she promises to respond in the manner that corresponds to what is truly good for us.
The Rosary, in particular, is a place where we discover how Mary cares for us, and the "victories" she wins for us every day.
The victory of Our Lady is the loving protection of a mother for her children. It is a sign of the strength of her maternal heart, which is our refuge if we seek her like children. In the Rosary we follow Jesus and find our unity with Him as His brothers and sisters in Mary's heart. We will win today, in time and in eternity, by bringing all our sorrows and troubles and fears and concerns to Mary's Immaculate Heart.
The victory of Our Lady is the loving protection of a mother for her children. It is a sign of the strength of her maternal heart, which is our refuge if we seek her like children. In the Rosary we follow Jesus and find our unity with Him as His brothers and sisters in Mary's heart. We will win today, in time and in eternity, by bringing all our sorrows and troubles and fears and concerns to Mary's Immaculate Heart.
In her heart we will encounter Jesus and learn how to abandon everything to Him, our God, our brother, our source of new life.
Saturday, October 5, 2013
"Combox Rage": Where Does It Come From?
Comments on social media. Comments on so many circumstances in the news. Often, people don't seem to read carefully, or pay attention to what has happened or how it has been reported. They just sound off. Some switch has been flipped inside them, and they spew stuff out: insults, rash judgments, panic, anger, ranting and rambling.
Reading comboxes can make you pretty depressed about the lack of common sense, charity, or even fairness in people's hearts today. It can make you want to do a facepalm over what appears to be an impenetrable cultural illiteracy in people. All this information accessible through the media is not helping people to learn; rather it seems to be stressing them out, oppressing them, provoking them to lash out.
I don't tend to rant in comboxes, but I have my ways of lashing out, in daily life. Why do I do that? Why do I use words to hurt others? I think its because there are certain circumstances that poke the tender spots; that dig into my fears, my gigantic emotional immaturity, all the wounds and anguish from five decades of life, and all the residue of sins, the crushed expectations, the frustrated hopes, the depths of soul still starving for love, the isolation and loneliness that comes from just being a fragmented and fragile human being.
Some mundane circumstance can stir up in me the deep places of fear and pain. Irrational forces rise up, the issue at hand becomes blurry as I wrestle with the feeling that I need to defend myself.
This contentiousness does not come from peace of heart. It comes from the "old self" that can't be defended, that needs to be surrendered and to die with Jesus and be healed.
Its not hard to find "the poor" in this sense. We are all poor. Our neighbors are poor, and if we are honest with ourselves we know that we have no grounds for treating them with disdain. Of course we try to help them recognize and overcome problems, and we do this with the same compassion that we hope to receive from them. We are Christians because, even with all of our mess, we have been changed by the compassion of Christ. We have come to know His mercy.
Lets never allow ourselves to forget this. And lets share it whatever way we can; lets draw on the patience and magnanimity of God that we have experienced in faith, and accompany the people who are in our lives, who have been given to us by Christ. Lets accompany them with love, even if we don't see any way to "make them better," even if we don't know what to give them. We don't know how to bridge the distance between our unfathomable pain and theirs. Lets remain with them in patience (patience with them and with ourselves). Lets love them and trust in God, because the face of Jesus looks upon us through their suffering.
The only thing that can heal people (that can heal us) is the love and mercy of Jesus.
We can all help one another to give everything -- more and more, deeper and deeper -- to Jesus. We have to give Him especially the stuff that is broken in our lives. Because we can't fix it. Only He can fix it.
The only thing that can heal people (that can heal us) is the love and mercy of Jesus.
We can all help one another to give everything -- more and more, deeper and deeper -- to Jesus. We have to give Him especially the stuff that is broken in our lives. Because we can't fix it. Only He can fix it.
Whatever weighs upon us, lets give it to Him and ask Him to have mercy on us.
Friday, October 4, 2013
Feast of St. Francis: Letting Jesus Look at Us
"Where did Francis’s journey to Christ begin?
It began with the gaze of the crucified Jesus.
With letting Jesus look at us
at the very moment that he gives his life for us
and draws us to himself.
Francis experienced this in a special way
in the Church of San Damiano,
as he prayed before the cross....
On that cross,
Jesus is depicted not as dead, but alive!
Blood is flowing
from his wounded hands, feet and side,
but that blood speaks of life.
Jesus’s eyes are not closed but open, wide open:
he looks at us in a way that touches our hearts.
The cross does not speak to us
about defeat and failure;
paradoxically, it speaks to us
about a death which is life,
a death which gives life,
for it speaks to us of love,
the love of God incarnate,
a love which does not die,
but triumphs over evil and death.
When we let the crucified Jesus gaze upon us,
we are re-created,
we become a new creation."
Pope Francis (Assisi, feast of St. Francis)
Tuesday, October 1, 2013
Nothingness into Fire
"Yes, in order that Love be fully satisfied, it is necessary that it lower itself, and that it lower itself to nothingness and transform this nothingness into fire!"
(St. Therese of Lisieux, Man. B, 3v)
Sunday, September 29, 2013
And... Finally, Finally, Finally!
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We are proud to announce that,
at the age of six years, eleven months,
and three days...
A TOOTH
has finally fallen from the mouth
of Josefina Janaro!
Congratulations Josefina!
Special thanks to Crispy Wheat Crackers, Inc. for its material assistance
in the fulfillment of this delicate project.
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Friday, September 27, 2013
John Paul Learning New Skills
Ever since he was a little kid, John Paul has always been very competent and responsible at carrying out tasks that require care, attention to detail, and a sense of responsibility. We've never been afraid to put tools in his hands.
| John Paul, age 5, using a screwdriver |
More recently, we've decided that it is time for him to learn how to operate some more complex mechanical equipment.
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Yes, its really true. He is driving the car. Eileen and I have both taken him out onto the asphalt (though not yet into traffic). He is learning quickly, and in no time at all I am sure he will be a better driver than I am. We just went out to practice behind the K-Mart and Martins. These long back lots simulate a stretch of road. We drove around for quite a while, and then we parked and went into the K-Mart and bought a new basketball.
Soon he'll be ready to take on the dog-eat-dog world of Front Royal traffic.
He'll handle it just fine.
Tuesday, September 24, 2013
New Series: "What I Wore On Monday"
| Weird weather as the year grows old |
I know that this is the time of "weather change" -- sunlight decreases and shifts position in the sky, temperatures become cooler, humidity and barometric pressure go up and down, its cloudy, its damp, the mornings are suddenly dark, the baseball season comes to an end....
I need some BRAIN-O to unclog these neuropathways.
Maybe I should have "theme days." It works for the "Mommy-bloggers." How about What I Wore on Monday, haha. Lets see, I wore a purple tee shirt with one of those little pockets on the chest. (Why the pocket? You can't put anything into it, and besides, the reason why you wear a tee shirt is because you don't need pockets. You're not going to a board meeting! You're bumming around the house.)
Anyway, a purple tee shirt; really its kind of "hippie purple"... actually it may have originally been blue but experienced a color alteration when I threw it in with the hot-water-and-bleach white laundry by mistake. (Never let me near the laundry, ever, ever! Ehh, I guess there's some purple underwear around here somewhere....)
I set off my hippie-purple tee with some navy blue workout pants made of cotton fabric. These cozy, loose fitting pants are great for working out or going for a nice, brisk five mile run. They're even better for flopping around the living room and doing the absolute minimum amount of physical exercise required by a sentient human being.
Don't you just love the purple and blue ensemble? (That should be pronounced onnn-SOMMM-bluuh with appropriate lip contortions.) I wanted that random, "I-don't-care-I'll-wear-whatever-is-on-the-top-of-the-pile" guy look... you could call it "bachelor nostalgia." Bottom it off with a fresh new pair (no holes!) of white, cotton athletic socks. (Yes, I just bought some. They were on sale!)
This outfit gives off a light and casual resonance: it says, "really, all I did was hang around in my pajamas all day!"
Its a very comfy outfit for Mondays, which are often at-home days spent reading, answering correspondence, and engaging in creative procrastination while a six year old climbs on my back or tries to rearrange parts of my face.
| Go work on your math, or whatever...! |
Monday, September 23, 2013
"...Don't Worry!" Why is That So Hard?
Okay, lets say it one more time:
"Pray, hope, and don't worry!"
Everybody remembers this. We love the "don't worry" part, and yet most of us are worried to death all day long, every day.
Consider the opposite of these words:
"Forget God or ignore Him, run after the things you think you want, and....?"
Fill in the blank. Can you stuff "don't worry" in there? Honestly? How would you fill in the blank?
"Pray, hope, and don't worry!"
Everybody remembers this. We love the "don't worry" part, and yet most of us are worried to death all day long, every day.
Consider the opposite of these words:
"Forget God or ignore Him, run after the things you think you want, and....?"
Fill in the blank. Can you stuff "don't worry" in there? Honestly? How would you fill in the blank?
Saturday, September 21, 2013
Being Looked Upon By Jesus
Today is St. Matthew's feast day. I was struck by the remarks of Pope Francis, about how he would often visit the church of San Luigi dei Francesi when he would come to Rome, and meditate on the stupendous painting by Caravaggio of "The Call of St. Matthew" (presumably someone was feeding 200 lire coins into that old box that turned the lights on the painting, because without those lights you can't see a thing in that old side chapel).
Its not surprising that the Pope has a special love for this painting, since it illustrates the event that underlies his episcopal motto Miserando Atque Eligendo: "looking upon him with mercy, He called him." This is how Francisco Jorge Bergoglio sees his own life and vocation. When asked how he would describe himself, he said simply -- without any affectation of self-conscious humility -- "I am a sinner." But the mercy of Jesus has looked upon him; the gaze of Jesus has penetrated his life, called him, changed him, and stirred within him the great desire to witness to the merciful love of Jesus that looks upon each and every person.
This morning, he preached about this gaze of Jesus and its meaning for St. Matthew, for sinners, for each one of us.
Jesus’ gaze always lifts us up.
It is a look that always lifts us up,
and never leaves us in our place,
never lets us down, never humiliates.
it invites you to get up;
[It is] a look that brings you to grow,
to move forward,
that encourages you, because it loves you.
The gaze makes you feel that He loves you.
And sinners, tax collectors and sinners,
they felt that Jesus had looked on them,
and that gaze of Jesus upon them (I believe)
was like a breath on embers,
and they felt that there was fire in the belly, again,
and that Jesus had lifted them up,
gave them back their dignity.
The gaze of Jesus always makes us worthy,
gives us dignity.
It is a generous look.
"But behold, what a teacher: dining with the dregs of the city!"
But beneath that dirt
there were the embers of desire for God,
the embers of God's image that wanted someone
who could help them be kindled anew.
This is what the gaze of Jesus does.
All of us find ourselves before that gaze,
that marvelous gaze,
and we go forward in life,
in the certainty that He looks upon us.
He too, however, awaits us,
in order to look on us definitively,
and that final gaze of Jesus upon our lives
will be forever, it will be eternal.
I ask all the saints upon whom Jesus has looked,
to prepare us to let ourselves be looked upon in life,
and that they prepare us also
for that final – and first! – gaze of Jesus!
--Pope Francis
Thursday, September 19, 2013
Ancient Blog, Young Writer: A Postscript on Hope
| Young John Janaro (aka "JJ") in the mountains, around 1990 |
There has been some further consideration of the recently rediscovered ancient blog of Young John Janaro (dated from the beginning of September 1990).
After 23 years, the author finds himself looking at the issues of his 1990 Statement of Purpose within a larger and deeper context. It is not the result of any pretense to greater wisdom, but rather the fruit of his own experience -- over this time -- of his sins and his repeated failures, and of the transforming mercy of Jesus that continues to shape his life with patience and persistence.
Young JJ spoke strongly (and rightly) about the collapse of the culture of autonomous "man," even with man's immense technological power and its possibilities.
He said that
Still, this desperate judgment was not a cause of despair for Young JJ. He knew that the hope for humanity was secure because God had intervened in history, and given Himself in love through the death and resurrection of Jesus:
As stated in the previous post, The Current JJ (in 2013) concurs with the thoughts expressed by Young JJ, but there is something that has changed.
JJ has grown in hope.
He has a more profound confidence today in that "presence" he wrote about in the second excerpt above: the presence of Christ. He has a deeper attachment to Him; or at least he is more concretely aware of his complete dependence on Christ's presence in every moment.
His confidence has grown in the ineffable power of God's love, in the presence of Christ as inexhaustible mercy, and in the often hidden but always patient and persistent ways that His mercy works in the world.
This means that JJ today -- while still fully acknowledging the divisions and the death that he wrote about in the first paragraph -- is less afraid of them. He sees more clearly (in spite of many hesitations) that death is not the final word, that evil -- in spite of its show of power -- has been defeated and uprooted forever, that however things may seem, the truth of reality is that everything is grace.
JJ is more convinced that the heart of Jesus is at work even in the darkest of places; that the suffering love of Jesus pierces the hearts of the many human beings of our time who have sought to make themselves autonomous and secure in their material power, but have succeeded only in making themselves lonely. Beneath the perversion and the violence of this culture of death is the human person's desperate loneliness and the terrible longing to be loved in a way that is real and permanent.
| Mug shot of JJ today: Really he is much happier than he looks here. |
The Crucified Jesus has carried the depths of all the pain that people inflict upon one another and themselves. He accompanies them in their loneliness and need for love, and with all of their deep personal wounds. He remains, He offers His love and mercy and healing, He waits upon even the most distant freedom and mysteriously engages it from within....
There is a great mystery at the heart of the world, at the heart of every moment. JJ doesn't grasp it, and usually forgets it. JJ doesn't know anything about the depths of this truth that the world has been redeemed. But he lives in hope. He prays for the grace to share in the love and compassion of Jesus, and to bear witness to it.
Tuesday, September 17, 2013
FOUND: Ancient Pre-Digital "Blog"... From 1990!
| Ancient media artifact discovered from "the nineties" |
Once upon a time, long, long ago, before there was an internet... in the days when lots of people didn't even own a personal computer, human beings used to "write" with their actual, physical hand. They used a device that was the ancestor of the stylus that people use today on their iPads: it was called a "pen." In their own unique fonts (i.e. "handwriting"), people would write on pieces of compressed wood pulp called paper.
Writing on paper was considered a technologically advanced activity (hahahahaha). It beat the heck out of chiseling hieroglyphics on stone tablets, after all. Indeed, it had developed to the point where people could communicate with each other all over the world... within a couple of weeks!
Those nice folks with blue uniforms who come to your house every day and stuff your mailbox with coupons, bills, and political advertisements? Once upon a time they were the conveyors of interactive media. The sight of the mailman approaching the house filled people with excitement, anticipation, and hope that perhaps a "letter" might come. Lovers would stare out the window waiting for the mailman to bring a written communication from their beloved, and their hearts would leap at the sight of the mailman's approach. The mailman was a kind of daily Santa Claus, bearing who-knows-what in the way of gifts.
Today, when we see the mail carrier, the most we hope for is a two-for-one pizza coupon, or else that package from Amazon that we already know is coming today because we've tracked it on the internet. Sigh.
An even more peculiar phenomenon of pre-third millennium human behavior was the unusual precursor to today's blogging. Many people would fill books of blank paper with reflections about themselves, their families, and the world in general. A book like this was called a diary or a journal.
The strange thing about these hand-written blogs is that they had no readers. In fact, they were often deliberately hidden... from everybody! They were only read by the person who wrote them.
Cultural anthropologists today disagree about what might have motivated such strange behavior. Indeed, the whole idea is remote to our 21st century minds. We all assume that expressing our thoughts in text is synonymous with publishing them. We write blogs to circulate our personal views; we promote our blogs, give them their own Facebook pages, tweet links to them over and over, and are thrilled if someone retweets them to an even wider circle of strangers. We solicit email subscribers, and we even encourage people to comment on stuff we think about.
Imagine that your blog had no readers and no comments, ever. No "thumbs up" likes. No Twitter gold stars. Not even a "+1" from the Google Plus crowd. There is no crowd, man. You are writing to yourself.
On the other hand, it is possible that the artifact we have discovered is one of those very particular things known as a writer's journal. Writers have always been a different kind of animal in the human race. Ever since chisel was first taken to stone in ancient Sumeria, some people have dreamed that if they recorded their thoughts, someone, someday would read them.
It is difficult for us to imagine a world in which people didn't presume that every thought that came into their heads could be almost instantly published. In past ages, however, the vast majority of the human race never published anything; indeed, most of them couldn't even write. But there were always the scribes, and some of them dreamed and scribbled words and hoped that they might have value, at least in the future. Then came the printing press, and suddenly writers were intoxicated with the possibility that their stuff might circulate all over the place, even while they were still alive.
Still, "publishing" was a relatively rare achievement. For many writers it was only a dream, but it was a dream they kept alive, especially in their youth. And with this dream came the aspiration to fame and a Place in History. This was the secret of the "writer's journal." Along with dreams of future fame, the writer cherished the notion that someday people would want to know what their Great Mind thought about their early years of obscurity, and the events of their time. The writer's journal was really a blog for posterity, a record of allegedly "private" thoughts that secretly aspired to be a literary legacy, a chronicle for generations to come.
Today, it is not surprising that scribes have taken to bloggery, and the whole package of verbal New Media, in an almost natural way, and with gusto. Since the days of the Epic of Gilgamesh we have been motivated by the desire or the hope or even the delusion that other people would read our stuff.
Vanity, of course.
For the Christian, vanity plus hypocrisy.... But also, faith. Certainly the 27 year old graduate student who wrote the words below as part of the "Statement of Purpose" at the beginning of his volume was puffed up with his own rhetoric. But he also really believed what he was saying. And he really did want to say it well. Young Janaro did say some interesting things, in fact. (I may present them here and there during the course of the year, now that the journal has been rediscovered.) But in September of 1990 Janaro was preoccupied with declaring his purpose. Perhaps his vanity can be forgiven because it was so guileless.
Indeed, what is striking here is that these words sound a lot like my writing today. I could enter this text digitally and post it as today's blog, with no further explanation, and the difference would hardly be noticed. Perhaps some will remark that Janaro used to be a better writer before his brains got scrambled. One thing is for sure: the meticulous print reproduced below was a first draft, straight from the pen, without revisions. I don't think I can do that any more.
Oddly, I was more serious a quarter of a century ago. While texts like this often appear in my present writings, there is nothing comparable in the journal of 1990 to the sloppy, rambling blog entries that I often post here (such as the one I'm writing now). Yet I still write this way, not only because my thoughts haven't changed but also because what I wrote in September of 1990 is still true in September of 2013.
Fundamental truths, and the basic needs of this emerging new epoch, haven't changed. And, although the author of these words has changed a great deal, he is still the same person. He still has the same voice.
| From John Janaro's Journal, "Statement of Purpose," September 5, 1990 |
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Sunday, September 15, 2013
We Have to Say "Yes"
We trust God because we know He loves us.
Everything is His gift, and expresses His personal love for each of us and for the relationships between us. He is Love. He can only love. In the Cross He reveals that He is Love and He gives Himself as love, and He shows us that He is totally united to us in our difficulties. Totally united with us. So we don't have to be afraid of anything. It's hard not to be afraid, but of course, He is with us even in our fear. He has given Himself and gives Himself as present in our lives now through Jesus and His Church.
In the end, we will be amazed when we realize what He has done for each of us. The marvelous truth will be clear: God is the Great Lover, He pours Himself out for each person, as only God can -- all the hidden ways will one day be manifest. He gives because He is the Giver, He is Gift.
Of course, a gift needs to be received, and love is only received in a fully personal way by the return of love. We have to say "yes" to God, through our life.
We are called to say yes to God, to say yes to the next step as God's light makes it clear to us, to say yes and to pray with trust that He will make it possible.
Everything is His gift, and expresses His personal love for each of us and for the relationships between us. He is Love. He can only love. In the Cross He reveals that He is Love and He gives Himself as love, and He shows us that He is totally united to us in our difficulties. Totally united with us. So we don't have to be afraid of anything. It's hard not to be afraid, but of course, He is with us even in our fear. He has given Himself and gives Himself as present in our lives now through Jesus and His Church.
In the end, we will be amazed when we realize what He has done for each of us. The marvelous truth will be clear: God is the Great Lover, He pours Himself out for each person, as only God can -- all the hidden ways will one day be manifest. He gives because He is the Giver, He is Gift.
Of course, a gift needs to be received, and love is only received in a fully personal way by the return of love. We have to say "yes" to God, through our life.
We are called to say yes to God, to say yes to the next step as God's light makes it clear to us, to say yes and to pray with trust that He will make it possible.
Saturday, September 14, 2013
He Emptied Himself
Though He was in the form of God,
[Jesus] did not regard equality with God
something to be grasped.
Rather, He emptied Himself,
taking the form of a slave,
coming in human likeness.
And found human in appearance,
He humbled Himself,
becoming obedient to death,
even death on a cross.
Because of this, God greatly exalted Him
and bestowed on Him the name
and bestowed on Him the name
that is above every name,
that at the name of Jesus every knee should bend,
of those in heaven and on earth
and under the earth,
and every tongue confess
that Jesus Christ is Lord,
to the glory of God the Father.
(Philippians 2:6-11)
Monday, September 9, 2013
The Boys of September
They were marked as The Team of Destiny.
...in April.
The season began with the Washington Nationals on top of the world.
Everyone expected them to win and win.
So it began in the cool evenings of Spring.
We had dreams of winning everything.
The season began, and the Nationals won! Of course!
And then they won some more games.
And then they lost some games.
...and won some...
...and lost some...
...and won some more...
...and lost some more...
And we waited for them to just keep winning and winning,
like the Team of Destiny should.
But instead they won and lost
like The-Team-That-Comes-In-Third-Place.
And we thought, "they are off to a slow start. Its only April."
"They're still getting warmed up. After all, its only May."
"They've had some injuries and some bad breaks. But its only June!"
"July. All-Star break. They haven't had a good first half. But they'll do better."
August.
They were doing worse.
They fell below .500!!!
(Perhaps, if you are not a fan, you do not understand what this means.
But you do get the idea that this is not good at all.)
By now we were grumbling at our heroes,
for this is the nature of fickle-hearted baseball fans.
"You bums!"
We said to our players,
to these people that we have never met,
about whose lives we know nothing.
It is too easy to forget to remain playful in defeat.
The last playoff spot was drifting further and further away.
The baseball season had quickly gotten old
and neared its end.
We who had played the season in the seats
or on our couches
had moved by now into the stage of resignation.
It is that peculiar baseball resignation that eludes despair
because there is always "Next Year."
And then
suddenly
the Nationals are on fire.
It is September
and they have finally found that elusive *sparkle*
that makes the difference between "winning and losing,"
and "winning and winning"!
Now they've got it at last.
And this is what makes baseball beautiful:
When the team trails by six games in September,
with some twenty or a few more left to play,
we start to dream again.
The mathematics of it are not promising,
but the strange twists and turns of this strange game
move between the numbers,
and what is possible
always remains possible.
If we win two more (and the Reds lose)
its only four games back.
And then another two
and its only two games behind!
And....
Is it really possible?
It has happened before.
That's the beauty of a game with a history.
There's almost nothing that hasn't happened before.
And so,
in these cool September evenings,
we keep on dreaming.
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